Have you ever wondered what the world would be like if we were all a little kinder to other people (and ourselves)?
I, for one, think it would be a much happier world…there would be more positivity, friendships and people feeling like they belong. This can never be a bad thing!
It is so simple to start putting kind and happy practices into place…today!
If you think about something that made you smile recently - something someone did or said to brighten your day - it is likely to be something kind; and, it may even be something fairly simple. It does not need to be a big grand gesture in order to make someone smile. It can be so simple to do something small today which will make someone else (and yourself) happier.
In a world where there is always so much going on and everything is becoming more ‘smart' - it can be difficult to remember how meaningful little gestures can actually be.
Small, simple acts of kindness can truly make a difference such as:
holding a door open for someone,
offering someone a shoulder to cry on,
giving an honest compliment…
YOU can make a difference, no matter how small; the difference you make matters.
Believe in yourself and realise you have the ability to not only make yourself happy but other people too. No matter what you may have been through or how negatively you feel about yourself…you have the ability to create and share kind moments and happiness.
Remember, other people will be thankful for your kindness (even if sometimes they do not show it). The ability to make people happy is something that should really be treasured and celebrated.
While I think it’s really important to be kind to others, it is also important to be a little kinder to ourselves, too. We often forget about treating ourselves with kindness.
Have you ever thought, “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do this” or “I’m not a good person”?
I know I have at some point, but this is such a negative and quite silly way to treat ourselves!
I’d like to challenge you to join me in stopping doing this, right now.
Are these things you would say to your friend or your child?
I imagine you wouldn’t. So I often wonder why we think it’s acceptable to say these things to ourselves? Sometimes we need to think - what would you say to your best friend if they were in the same situation? And then use these thoughts with yourself, instead of your go-to negative feelings.
If your friend came to you upset after a relationship breakdown - what would you say to make them feel better?
Perhaps you would remind them that they will find love again or that they are amazing and beautiful and can do better.
Remember this the next time you are in this situation and remind yourself of your positive qualities and how you will find (and deserve) love again in time.
By doing this instead of telling yourself you’re ugly and it was your fault and you will be alone forever - or whatever you may usually tell yourself - you will feel so much happier and the kindness to yourself will allow you to spread that happiness to others too. Happy people tend to spread their happiness and kindness quite well; and, I have every faith that each and every one of you has the ability to be a happy person!
I have 1 simple step that I think we can all put in place to become a kinder and happier person:
At the end of each week (or you can even do this at the end of each day if you would like), write down three things that made you happy that day or week.
Take a moment to remember how it made you feel, who or what was involved and how you could potentially create one of these happy moments for someone else the following day/week.
For example, did someone tell you that you did a good job at work today…Is there someone you could compliment and appreciate like this tomorrow?
I would love to see some of you celebrating your happy moments and spreading the happiness with your own acts of kindness with this challenge if you choose to accept…
Don’t forget to leave a comment to share how you got on.
Louise who is a blogger from www.sociableeventsaberdeen.com with topics ranging from events and activities to family fun, lifestyle, acts of kindness and social inclusion. Find her on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.